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Thursday, October 28, 2010

Happy Halloween!

Halloween is upon us. Which means the cutest ghost, goblins, super heroes, princesses, and other characters will fill their neighborhood streets going house to house trick or treating. I have not been so excited about Halloween since the year I dressed up as Wonder Woman (I don’t have to dress up as this character anymore because I, like most moms, am Wonder Woman). This is the first of many years when I will dress my precious daughter up and parade her around in all her cuteness. This year she will be a monkey. I figured I would dress her up as whatever I wanted because, most likely after this year it will not be my choice but hers. I chose a monkey because she makes the cutest face when she is concentrating that looks like a monkey. Also, the picture of the baby in the catalog was too cute to resist. I had considered dressing up as a giant banana, but yellow is not my color. My daughter and I will be continuing a tradition I started 2 years ago and will be trick or treating with Claire, her 2.5 children (she is pregnant with #3), her sister and her family, and other friends in the neighborhood. It is a great tradition. One I plan on continuing for many years.

I am giddy with excitement at the thought of future lady bugs, ballerina’s, witches, and perhaps even a cowgirl. I now know the meaning of seeing things through your child’s eyes. I hope all of my readers have a safe and Happy Halloween and your kids eat all the candy before you do!


Thursday, October 14, 2010

Cartoon Family


I was out working today and had been driving around looking for a coffee shop to get onto the internet when I pulled into a parking spot behind this SUV.  I noticed these cute cartoon figures on the back windshield of the SUV smiling back at me.  {I am not sure if these things are popular where you live, but where I live all the moms in SUV’s and even the non SUV’s moms have these cartoon figures on their back windshield.  They have mommies, daddies, little boys and girls, babies, dogs, and cats.  There is even flip flops to represent each member of your family.}  When I looked closer at these figures I realized there was one missing.  It was just a mommy and a baby.  There was a faint sticky outline of where the cartoon father had once been.  I found this so amusing that I had to take a picture of it.  The more I thought about it, the more I laughed.  I had to post it on FaceBook so that my friends could laugh along with me.  At first, what this said to me was, I can’t stand my ex so I have removed him from every aspect of my life including the cartoon family on the back of my SUV.  This hit really close to home for me because, if I had a cartoon family on the back of my car it would just be my daughter and me.  Except there would not be a faint outline where the daddy once was because, we were never a family so there was no reason for a daddy cartoon figure to be on the back of my car windshield with my daughter and me.

Then on my 2 hour commute home I thought about this more.  I pictured this young mom so happy putting her cartoon family on the back of her SUV.  She purposely went to the store picked out the figure that best represented the father, the best figure that represented her, and finally the best one that represented their baby.  The baby they had made together.  She was delighted as she strategically placed the 3 of them on her windshield.  I am sure every time she opened the back of her SUV she smiled at her cartoon family as she loaded groceries to bring home to her real family. 

Then another image came to me.  It was one of her complete heartbreak.  I could see her outside peeling the cartoon father off the back of her windshield.  Her eyes were red, her nose was running, and tears were streaming down her face as she stripped him off her car.  After he was gone there was a faint outline of where he once was.  That was fine because he will never be completely gone.  So there they were, just she and her baby.  I am sure one day a new cartoon dad will cover the place where the faint outline of another was. 

I normally don’t write in this kind of emotional tone, but this was on my heart.  The truth is I want more than anything to have a cartoon family on the back of my car.  I hate that my daughter will eventually spend vacations with another woman.  I can’t stand the thought of another woman tending to her if she became sick.  I often wonder if my daughter’s father thinks about her watching cartoons in bed on a Saturday morning with someone that is not him, her waking up on Christmas morning to another man behind the video camera.  I know plenty of children go through this type of situation and come out fine, but it’s not the same when it is you.  All I can do is do what I do, and that is love my daughter with all my heart.  Even if my cartoon family on the back of my car is just she and I that will be okay, as long as she is there. 


Wednesday, October 6, 2010

Milestones


Today my daughter is 6 months old!  In the past week she has had 3 milestones, a new tooth, sitting up by herself, and she got her ears pierced.  The tooth I noticed this weekend but is barely visible.  I just ran my finger across her gums and felt it.  This would explain the recent diaper rash, fussiness, and constant sucking on her bottom lip.  This has not interfered with nursing …….yet.  I am not looking forward to the day when she chomps down on my nipple.  I have heard from many moms, including my own, that this can and at some point will happen.  I know that this is just the beginning the tip of the iceberg.  Soon more teeth will follow then walking and talking.  My little angel won’t be so little anymore.  They won’t be babies long, someone told me.  They were right.
Last Tuesday she and I sat outside in the grass and enjoyed the lovely weather.  Fall has arrived and being outside is irresistible!  My daughter was intrigued with the grass (it was somewhat tall because who has the time to cut it?!).  She wanted to touch it, kneed it, and pull on it.  Watching her discover this for the first time was delightful for me.  While we were out there I sat her up and she was able to sit up all by herself……..for a short period of time, then she rolled to the side.  Of course I was there to catch her, but I was so excited to see that she was able to sit up.  Since then I have been working with her allowing her to sit up by herself and fall over. 
This past Saturday I took her to get her ears pierced.  I did some research online, and did the best research, talking to other moms.  I found out that if you want to do this it is best to do it between the ages of 3 to 6 months or wait until they are older.  Since she was embarking on her 6 month milestone I figured I need to act quickly.  The topic of ears getting a baby girls ears pierced is somewhat controversial.  Some of the moms that I spoke to had very strong opinions about this subject.  The argument is that it is painful and some moms couldn’t do that to their baby.  A few moms said they would wait until the child asked them to do it.  I could argue both points.  I got my ears pierced when I was 3 and I swear I remember having it done.  It wasn’t SOOOOO traumatic for me, but it was still scary.  I wanted her to have it done during a time that she wouldn’t remember, and I could make sure the ears were tended to.  You are supposed to clean them twice a day and constantly turn them.  As a child gets older they may not let you clean and turn them because the lobes are sore, then they get infected.  It wasn’t bad at all.  Yes she cried, but for less than 10 minutes.  Then we went into the Disney store and she was distracted with all the colors, sounds, and textures.  Two days after having it done, her ears were still sore and she fought me a bit when I tried to clean them.  Now she doesn’t even notice that I am cleaning and turning them.  As she gets older they will just be there.  I may even tell her she was so special God allowed her to be born with earrings!   
To this matter I say To Each Her Own. 
These milestones are not important for just her but also for me.  It makes me realize how fast she is growing and in the blink of an eye she is now 6 months old.  Soon it will be her first Christmas and then first birthday.  To each parent I say once again, treasure every moment you have with your children.  In an instant they are grown, and you will wonder where the time went. 

Thursday, September 30, 2010

Single Mom goes Back to School

My blogs will probably become fewer in the future. I have enrolled back in school to complete my MBA. I have 12 hours left to complete it. I hope when I finish I can teach at a college somewhere and have more time with my daughter. My current job has me on the road a lot, and I feel like I am missing so much with her. I never thought that I would want to stay at home and not work. Now I am envious of the moms that do, and I understand why they have chosen to do so. When I drop my daughter off in the mornings at my Mother’s, my Mom walks out with her and waves goodbye to me. This is heartbreaking. I know it will get worse as she gets older and cries for me as I back out of the driveway.
Now my schedule consists of wake up get ready, get my daughter ready, drive to my Mom’s, work (drive all over the place), drive back to my Mom’s, pick up my daughter, drive home, play with my daughter as long as I can, cereal time, bath time, nursing time, bed time, then I have to complete things for work, check email, at the point that I am so tired all I want to do is sleep, I have to pump, and complete school work. Am I crazy?! Perhaps a little.
I pray that my craziness will pay off in the long run. I want a career that will pay me enough to live comfortably but spend the most time with my daughter. There are so many things I wish to write about as I edxperience new things with her. So in between expense reports, essays on international business, traveling here and there, I will try to continue to write my blog. Who knows perhaps all of this will turn into a book. Then I could stay at home with the love of my life, make a living, and write about her and our life. Wouldn’t that be grand! Until then bear with me.

Wednesday, September 22, 2010

HighChair


My newest favorite baby item has got to be the highchair.  I got Grayco’s Blossom 4 in 1 highchair as a gift from my Dad and Stepmom.  I finally put this thing together last weekend (wasn’t nearly as hard as some of the other baby items that I have assembled.  I mean you need a degree from Harvard to understand these instructions and put some of this stuff together!)  Anyway, I am LOVING this highchair and so is my daughter.  Not only does she get her “cereal face” every night in it, she sits perched in it in the mornings when I am getting ready for work.  The swing has been replaced by the highchair in our morning routine.  I think she loves it because she is up high and can see all around her.  She has started her new favorite game which is play with her toys, throw them on the floor, watch Mommy pick it up, and repeat.  She is not able to sit up yet but sits perfectly in the highchair.  Not perfectly still (she has to be strapped in) which brings me to another topic wiggle worm changing time. 
My daughter is now very curious about things that are around her on her changing table.  She wants to look all around and most of the time that requires her to flip over or to do her now famous back bends.  She throws her head back and arches her back like she is in the finals at the Olympics.  It started out to be a little funny but now it is almost scary.  I am so afraid that she is going to prepare to do a back flip and flip right out of my hands or off her table. 
So, if you have a baby that is around 5 months don’t wait until they are sitting up to put them in a highchair.  Try it out but, strap them in!  When they get in that wiggle worm stage strap them in everything!  These little suckers are quick and can squirm, flip flop or wriggle out of just about anything.  They are little Houdini’s just a much cuter version! 

Wednesday, September 15, 2010

A Day in the Life of a Breast Pumping Mom

It has now been 6 weeks that I have been back to work. A few of you have inquired on how breast pumping and feeding is going now that I am back to work full time. I can tell you that breast feeding is going great. I still nurse in the mornings, twice in the evening, and sometimes (lately most nights) during the middle of the night. The breast pumping is a whole other story.
I am in sales which mean I live in my car. Usually during my lunch I find a secluded place, park, put up my sun visor in my front window, put on my shawl to cover up, turn on some relaxing music and commence to pumping. Last week I was behind a Ramada Inn doing just this when a man came out of nowhere and began staring. As he walked by, he continued to stare. I am guessing he was trying to figure out what I was doing. I wanted to get out and yell, stop staring but I couldn’t, because I was in a compromising position. Anytime you are sitting in a public place with your boobs out with a machine sucking the life out of them, you are in a compromising position. So I didn’t.
I usually bring my lunch in a little ice chest. This doubles as my milk cooler after I have pumped. Some days I have lunch with customers. On a particular day I had a lunch with someone so I pumped before I went into meet them. I did not bring my cooler so I had to bring the milk in with me (can’t leave it in the car it was 105 degrees in there!). No one was in the conference room when I was unloading my items on the table. I pulled the milk bottle out and set it down so it wouldn’t spill. It was about this time someone walked in. The girl greeted me then quickly looked at the interesting object on the table. “What is that?” she asked.
I responded with, “what do you think it is?”
“I don’t know.”
Well, being that this was a woman I told her what it was. I was a little embarrassed since this was the first time that I had met her and here bodily fluid lay between us. Then I thought about it and I decided I have nothing to be embarrassed about. Breast pumping is a natural thing (well not natural in the sense of nature but natural in the sense of doing what you’ve got to do for your baby!) Come to find out she was pregnant herself and we talked the entire lunch about pregnancy and babies. Of course I told her all about my blog and am hoping she is now a follower.
One downside to breast pumping is your wardrobe. If you plan on pumping you must wear pumping friendly clothes i.e. tops and dresses that allow you to get to the girls easily. Some of my customers must think I only own a few dresses and tops, but it is impossible to wear a one piece dress, with a high neck that zip up the back and pump! Not necessarily impossible but you don’t want to have to get naked for this process, especially if you pump in your car like myself.
So to all you new moms, soon to be moms, soon to be returning to work moms that want to pump, it can be done! It just takes a serious amount of patience, dedication, a selective attire and a huge sense of humor!

Saturday, September 11, 2010

A Baby Really Does Change Everything


I have mentioned that I love shoes and since the birth of my daughter the only pair I have bought were running shoes.  I bought them with the intention of running when I got home from work.  Ask me how many times I have run??????..........  Once.  My excuses are that it has been WAYYYYY too hot, and who has the time? 
But getting back to the love of shoes.  I haven’t been shoe shopping much, because on a potential shoe shopping day I would rather sleep in, there are a million other things to do, and now that I have a baby I am invited to baby birthday parties.  (Don’t get me wrong I LOVE going to baby birthday parties just as much as every other mother there:)  So, not much time for shopping or running (not complaining about the running as much as I am the lack of shopping.)  

Another one of many ways my daughter has changed my life and my priorities is I have decided to rid myself of my first baby, Scarlett….. my 1981 Mercedes Benz SL 380.  I had wanted one of these cars for over 10 years when I found this car.  I knew she was mine the moment I laid eyes on her.  She will be 30 next year, and when I bought her my best friend Laura pointed out that my car was older than my boyfriend.  To this day that thought cracks me up!  I have never been in love with an automobile, but I LOVE this car.  Her engine has a great deep throttle and she can fly!  Her color is a deep red that you can still see your reflection in.  I could be having the worse day, but when I would drive her with the top down it would soon get better.  There is something about the sound of that engine and the wind in my hair. 
Since the birth of my daughter I have driven her 3 times.  Twice to the store which is less than a mile from my house.  There is no place for a car seat nor should there be.  If you scratched the paint off you would probably see Budweiser on the side.  And air bags, forget about them!  I am glad at least it has seat belts.  Not a safe car for a child.  My original thought was I would keep Scarlett and when my daughter was about 5years old we would take weekend trips the beach.  Even when she gets older the thought of something happening is frightening and I don’t think I could put my daughter in this car.  So now she is for sale.  Soon her place in the garage will replaced with a bicycle, toys, slip n slide, hula hoops, a big wheel, and other things. 
I will miss my first baby Scarlett, and never forget the memories we have shared.  It is time to let her go though and replace her with moments with the most important thing in the world to me, my real baby, my daughter.


If you are interested in buying Scarlett please email me unexpectingmommy@gmail.com or contact me on FaceBook.

Wednesday, September 8, 2010

FUN STUFF

Bi-Polar Baby – Sometimes I think my daughter is bi-polar. She can be laughing and in the middle of a laugh she will start to cry. There have been times when she is bawling and will break into a smile. The funniest thing I have seen her do is when, she was playing with a rattle and her arms where just flailing back and forth and up and down. In the middle of a swing she whacks herself in the head and her goodtime turns into misery. What is really funny is she looks around like, who just hit me in the head?!

Recently, my daughter has started feeling on people’s faces like she is reading them like a blind person would do. It is so fascinating to watch her do this. She will grab noses, then put both hands on each cheek, rub all over and ultimately try to put her hand in the mouth. If you have glasses, forget about it, they are being yanked off! Oh and hair, it is going to be pulled. This may sound gross (and probably is), but my daughter almost always has a strand of my hair in her hand. Guess that is why my new hairdo is a pony tail!

Word from the wise, don’t play Superman or toss your baby up in the air shortly after he or she has eaten. You will be wearing spit up in your eye. Trust me I know from experience.

Who would have thought that after a long stressful day like today instead of climbing into a hot bath with a glass of wine I would rather play peek a boo, give raspberries on a chubby tummy and just lie on the bed making ridiculous faces to my daughter. I just stood in her room holding her, dancing to “The Nutcracker” as she fell asleep, and I began to cry. My heart has never been filled with so much love, joy, and happiness. Every second with her is a treasured moment. Forget the bath, I will be lucky if I get one……and I wouldn’t have it any other way!

Monday, August 30, 2010

Product Talk

My intention when I first started writing this blog was to talk about products that I find useful.  I have gotten away from this concept and have opted for sharing my experiences with my angel baby.  With this blog I am getting back to my original intention.
Next Monday my daughter will be 5 months old.  Where has the time gone?  In these 5 months I have used a variety of products.  Here is a list of the ones that I am still using and would definitely recommend to anyone that just had a baby or is about to.
1.       A glider or rocking chair - I use this everyday and have since the day my daughter came home.   I can see myself using this for many years.  Whether it is nursing her, putting her to sleep or reading her a story, a glider is a must have.
2.       Breast Pump – If you breastfeed and go back to work this is a MUST have.  Get a good one!
3.       The Breast Friend – again if you breastfeed this is a great accessory to make breast feeding easier.  I have a Boppie, but rarely use it. 
4.       Tummy time mat – It is important for babies at around 3 months get plenty of tummy time in order to strengthen their upper body to prepare them for crawling.  I bought a Tummy Time mat for around $30.  I have found them a TJMaxx and Marshall’s for half that.  If you want to be really practical put a blanket on the floor and put some soft toys around the baby for them to focus on. 
5.       A Swing – My daughter is not sleeping in the swing anymore but this device still comes in handy when you need a free moment to grab a shower or something.
6.       Wet mats – these square waterproof mats are great to have on your changing table.  If your baby is anything like mine as soon as the cold air hits they are inclined to go wee wee.  This saves you from having to do extra laundry.
7.       The vibrating chair – I don’t know what I would do without this thing!!!  It is great for just about anything.  It is portable so you can put it in any room in your house.
8.       Caldesene powder – This was recommended to me by my Mom.  It apparently has been around for years.  This powder is better than your standard baby powder, because it actually creates a barrier from moisture.  If your baby has a chronic diaper rash, give this stuff a try.  My daughter has not had a diaper rash yet.
9.       Crackling books – as your child gets older and begins to play with toys these books (and some toys) fascinate them.  They sound like paper crumbling.  My Mom said she used to give me a cheese wrapper that had the same effect.  Either way babies LOVE the sound and possibly the way it feels.  These items are sure to keep them occupied at least for a bit.
10.   Last but not least FOOTED PAJAMAS – especially the ones that snap!  These things are great.  Since babies cannot sleep with a blanket these pajamas keep them warm so you can stay cool.  I did close the AC vent in my daughter’s room so she wouldn’t get too cold as I like the house cool at night. 
Of course pacifiers!
I will have more suggestions as time goes on, but get ready for more post about my days with my little angel baby.

Thursday, August 26, 2010

I’ve created a little monster


My daughter was somewhat sleeping through the night.  She would go down around 7 and sometimes wake up around midnight then wake up again around 3:30.  I was doing very well about getting up, putting her passy back in her mouth, patting her on the back for a while and then letting her fall back to sleep in her crib.  Sometimes she would cry, but if she did it wasn’t for long.   
A few weeks ago, my friend Laura came to stay 4 days with us, and I didn’t want my daughters cries to wake her up during the night.  So when she would wake up (normally at the 3:30 time) I would jump up, get her and put her in the bed with me.  I suppose she has gotten used to this routine.  Now if I try to put her passy in her mouth and pat her on the back she rolls over, looks up at me, frowns this huge frown and begins to cry.  This is heart breaking because I interpret this as her saying to me, “don’t leave me here all alone.”  So I don’t.  I carefully pick her up, pull her to my chest, whisper in her ear that I love her and take her to my room.  We lay down and I nurse her until she falls back to sleep (which is usually within 5 minutes).  I usually fall back to sleep too and at some point wake up and look at her.  I know some “experts” say that you shouldn’t sleep with your baby, a newborn probably not, but I think when they are a little older it is just fine.  Of course some precautions should be taken.  But it is one of the sweetest things to wake up with my daughter in my arms and seeing her sleeping with her little mouth open.  She is so completely relaxed and content being there with me.  Although, I would love to sleep through the night and sometimes my arm falls asleep while she is laying a top it but, I wouldn’t trade these moments for anything.   
So to those “experts” I say I will savor this time with my precious angel and worry about something else. 

Monday, August 23, 2010

Cereal Face



My last post I mentioned my vanity and the fact that I am unable to do many of the things that I would like to do to enhance appearance.  I have recently found an all natural product that will have to work until I am able to begin my regime again.  It’s the cereal mask. 
I began spoon feeding my daughter cereal when she was 3 months old.  Some people say you shouldn’t give solids to a baby until they are around 5months old.  I went against this new school of thought and opted for the “old school” way of doing things.   At family gathering a few of the older ladies asked me if my daughter was on cereal yet.  I said no and that I was told that I should wait to give it to her, they informed me that they gave their babies cereal very early and that I should too.  The real incentive for me to give it to her was when they said it may help her sleep all night.  SLEEP?!  Oh I was all over anything that could possibly get her to sleep all night.  (Let me just say this is a myth and did not work.)  However, I did try it and she LOVED it!  She did so well with it I kept her on it and to this day she looks forward to cereal time. 
Recently she has learned how to spit her cereal in my face.  Of course this is not intentional but she does think it is funny.  Whether she spits it when she is laughing, crying or during a sneeze, a few times a week I have cereal on my face.  I have decided to make the most of it and leave the cereal on my face hoping there is some benefit to it.  After all it is organic so it has to be good…..right? 
(This is a stock picture not one of my daughter.  I am still leery about posting pictures of her)

Thursday, August 19, 2010

Vanity O Vanity

I have not had any plastic surgery……yet, but I am a HUGE fan of Botox!!!! It has been over a year since my last injection of this highly toxic fabulous miracle. Of course, I knew that it probably was not a good idea to get any while I was pregnant. So, I patiently waited through my pregnancy, watching as fine lines developed and that nightmare of a line between my eyes returned! ARGHHHH how long could I look at myself in the mirror like this. The answer to this question is a wee bit longer.


There are many things that you shouldn’t consume or use while breastfeeding. Getting Botox is one of them. I called my doctor’s office and to ask his opinion. His nurse said they wouldn’t advise it. Considering that it is such a small amount and too much probably wouldn’t be absorbed into the blood stream, I prayed it would be ok to get while nursing. In a serious moment of desperation I called the manufacturer. They informed me that they had no studies on the use of Botox while breastfeeding and although not a lot enters the blood stream it still could be passed through in breast milk. Not wanting my daughter to get sick or something worse from my vanity, I opted not to get botulism injected into my face just yet.


I have mentioned my Melasma (discoloration of the skin due to hormones) before and my battle with it. I feel so intimate with this condition that I have vowed the next dog I get I will name him/her Melasma. I had a ghastly amount during my pregnancy and am trying to rid my face of the last traces of this evil devil. I started using Tri-Luma, which is a prescription bleaching cream that I used before I got pregnant. After using it for a week or so I thought it would be a good idea to see if it is ok to use while breastfeeding. NOPE! No good. Poo! Now what? I am wrinkled and discolored. I look like a suede handbag that was left in the rain.


Then I began checking on other things. I can’t use Strivectin for my stretch marks, white strips for bleaching my teeth or laser skin treatments. NOOOOOOO! How am I going to find a husband if I am wrinkled and dotted up with yellow teeth?

Doing what is in the best interest of my daughter I decided that it would be best if I took a sabbatical from my vanity. At least until I stopped breastfeeding........... then I am all over it or it is all over me!

Tuesday, August 17, 2010

Country Grammer

It was recently brought to my attention that my blog is full of grammatical errors. I appreciate the constructive criticism.  If my errors bother you please let me know of the corrections that need to be made, and I will gladly correct them. I don’t write this blog as a journalist or for award. I write this blog as an expression of what has happened in my life and the current events that transpire with my daughter in the hopes that my readers will be able to relate and find some humor in it. (I believe that was a run on sentence!) Perhaps I should have paid better attention in English class, but I believe that everyone who reads my blog gets my point whether a comma is in the right place or not!
Thanks for following!

Wednesday, August 11, 2010

Eat my Words!


I said before that I never wanted to have children.  I wanted to live the life of leisure thinking only of myself.  (Not that there is anything wrong with people that chose this lifestyle).  However, God had a different plan for me, and now I have the most precious angel baby who I love more than life itself.  When she came along I said, “That’s it!  I don’t want anymore.  One is enough for me.”  I may have to eat my words yet again. 
After you reach a certain age you may start to feel too old to have a baby like I did.  Celebrities make it look easy having babies in their 40’s, (not that I am close to 40 yet) but still if you start calculating your age it can be scary.  If I have a baby when I am 35, I will be around 53 when they graduate from high school!  I don’t want to be the old lady mom!  The great news is that if I am the old lady mom I won’t be alone.  My friends are still having babies.  One of my friends is 43 and just had her 3 child.  She is a rockstar, and I admire her very much.  Another one of my friends just told me that she was pregnant with her 3rd and another friend is going to start trying for her 2nd soon.  This got me thinking………….
What if I meet someone and they want to have a baby?  Do I really want my daughter to be an only child? (At least as far as I am concerned.)  Would having a 2nd child be THAT bad considering my age?  Not at all.  Then I started calculating again, and if I meet someone soon we would probably date for a while, then we would get married.  I am sure we would want to enjoy being married for a while (unless he was in a hurry to get pregnant too).  Then I would get pregnant, 9 months later the baby would be here.  I can do this before I am 35……right?  I am 33.  In case you don’t know this about me, I want to be married.  I want a family.  I am sad that things did not work out with the father of my daughter, but they didn’t so here I am.  I suppose I should just let things happen as they are going to happen, but I am a planner and I think I should have some kind of a plan.  After all this I have decided to be open minded to having another baby and not get the tubes tied up yet!  If he/she is as wonderful as my first, why wouldn’t I?  And so what if I am an old lady mom?  I will be a cool old lady mom sitting in the stands with my old lady mom friends!

Friday, August 6, 2010

First week back to work

A day in the life of a working single mom

I have completed my first week back to work. I must say it was very bitter sweet. I am so thankful to have a job at this point (I have been unemployed since December) but I hate leaving my daughter. I have enjoyed my time with her. She is 4 months today. I have been able to spend quality time with her, but the bills have to be paid, so hi ho hi ho it’s off to work I go. For those of you who are pregnant or jus t had a baby, it can be done. Yes it is hard, but I must admit it is nice to get out and be around people. I am also still breast feeding which is a whole other blog posting in itself.

I won’t lie it is hard being a single mother with a 4 month old and returning to work. Before she was born I would go to the gym, do a yoga or spin class or both, come home cook dinner or meet friends out, get in bed around 11:00 and get up around 7:30. Not the case anymore. Now I wake up whenever she does which is normally between 5:30 and 6:00. She is in the bed with me because she fell asleep there when she woke up at 3:30 to nurse. Sometimes I nurse her again sometimes I don’t, it depends. I let her play in the bed while I jump in the shower. After I get out of the shower it is time for diaper change and for her to get dressed. I dress her then I put her in her swing which is in my bedroom. She talks to me and grabs her feet while I put on my make-up , do my hair and get dressed myself. I load the car up with her diaper bag, my breast pump, my briefcase, my lunch, her lunch, my purse, my computer……. Whoops don’t forget the baby! We then head to my Mom’s (which is conveniently 30 minutes away……there is sarcasm there!) I am very grateful that my Mother is keeping my daughter during the day. I have heard nightmare daycare stories. My Mom is as close to me as my daughter will get, and I know takes excellent care of her. So after a hectic day in the field, driving all over God’s creation (I’m in sales) I make the long drive back to my Mom’s to get my daughter. I then head home……. (another 30 minutes). Once there I barely get my stuff put down before it is bath time, cereal time, nursing time and then hopefully bedtime. I work until around 9:30 or 10:00, cram some kind of leftover food that is not moldy in my mouth and finally I can rest. I read my bible, write in my journal say my prayers and pray she will sleep through the night (it has only happened once!) But a girl can pray!!!
I wake up the next day and do it all over again. Someone recently called me amazing as I have found all mothers are and, my reply was “Yes, yes I am amazing.” I just hope I can keep this up!



Sunday, August 1, 2010

Discipline


My general council is still giving me advice and support.  Last weekend Laura, her husband and their son came to stay with me.  She gave me advice about going back to work.  Clair came over this past Saturday with her 2 kids.  I met up with Sophia this past Friday.  In every encounter with each of them we talked about disciplining our children.  One thing I have noticed is that every parent disciplines their child differently.  There is no perfect way to discipline.  To spank or not to spank?   Time out?  Other forms of punishment, (none of which involve a wire coat hanger)!  My daughter is not yet old enough to be disciplined, but it is something I think about.  The overall consensus is to be consistent.  We all know those parents that say, “I am going to spank you if you do that one more time”.  Or not making the child stay in time out when they have been bad.  I discussed this with the council and they laughed and said, “just wait”.  I guess I will. 
Sophia told me about her soon to be 3 year old putting his Woody doll in time out because he was bad.  He then told Buzz LightYear that he could not play with Woody because he was driving him “crazy”!  Sophia said it makes you feel badly when your kids start telling their toys things you tell them.    
Bottom line, discipline is important but controversial.  I don’t judge any parent’s technique.  I was spanked, had my mouth washed out with soap, put in the corner and later put on restriction.  I think I turned out ok (although some may argue with that).  All I do know is as a child nothing could put the fear of God in me better than my mom scowling her brown, pointing her finger at me and saying, “you’re going to get it when we get home”! 

Thursday, July 29, 2010

Nursing has changed my whole outlook on Boobs. Before I started nursing I considered my boobs to be an accessory. They were perky, made my clothes look good and offered some pleasure (at times). They were sacred and private. Now I love them for a whole different reason, they are an ends to a mean. When my daughter gets hungry they are there to feed her. I really don’t care where we are. In the event she gets hungry, they get whipped out to feed her. If you are against public nursing stop reading now…… I have nursed her in restaurants, the mall, parking lots, in friends’ houses, and in front of perfect strangers. Don’t get me wrong I always cover up, but I am not going to let my baby go hungry because some person thinks nursing is gross. They can get over it!
Nursing makes you realize the real reason God gave women breast. Everything else they are used for is bonus! I am not looking forward to the after math of nursing. A call to the plastic surgeon may be in order, but if not I definitely see a push up bra in my future!!!! However, no matter how low they go it will be worth it, because my daughter will have been fed the food that was created just for her and she and I have a bond that will never be broken.

Thursday, July 15, 2010

I couldn't make this up!


This past weekend my Mother, Sister, Niece, daughter and I headed out of town for my Cousin’s 40th birthday party.  After riding for about 4 hours I was really hungry.  We went through the drive through at Chick Fil A, and got back on the road in order to make good time.  At this point my daughter was asleep.  After smelling the food in the car she woke up and started acting hungry herself.  I apologized to everyone, but said we were going to have to pull over so I could nurse her.  My sister pulled off at the next exit.  To the left was a Chevron, McDonald’s, Shell Station and a Hardee’s.  To the right was a funeral home and cemetery.  My sister went to the right.  We drove into the funeral home and headed back to the cemetery.  “This will give you some peace and privacy” my sister said.  
 So we drove around a loop and parked on the top of a hill, under a tree, next to a large headstone.   My mom and sister got out to walk around and stretch their legs, while my niece stayed in the car with me.  I pulled my shirt up, got my daughter in position and began to nurse her.  It was about that time when my mom and sister quickly headed back to the car.  I immediately saw why.  A hearse was coming around the loop followed by MANY cars!  A funeral procession was headed our way.  My sister jumped behind the wheel, cranked the car and put it into drive, but it was too late!  The cars had already started driving by.  Thinking we could still get out of the cemetery, my sister pulled out in front of one of the cars, joining us in the procession.  The cars began parking on both sides of the path at the end of the loop.  We had nowhere to go.  We were blocked in, front and back.  People began walking to the grave site, right beside our car…….Let me remind you I am still nursing.  So here we are a baby and 4 ladies sitting in the car during a funeral.  One with her breast out! 
It was 103 degrees that day so we didn’t think the service would last long.  We were wrong, as we had been about many things in this situation.  My niece said, “Just put Ole’ Roy in the ground and let’s go!”  I know it sounds bad but we were trying to make light of things.
I finished nursing.  When it looked like the service was over and the people began to disperse guess what happened????? Yep my daughter took a POOP!  So the attendees saw her being nursed on their way to the service and saw her butt being changed on the way back.  I am sure they weren’t expecting that anymore than we were. 
Finally, the traffic started moving and we had all laughed so hard that we had to pee, but we decided to hold it.  Out of fear of Murphy’s Law!

Monday, July 12, 2010

Too Much Caffeine

I love coffee!  I have been drinking it since I was 16 so for about 8 years ; ) When I found out that I was pregnant I decided not to drink any and haven't really since the birth of my daughter because I am breastfeeding.  This weekend I was out of town and my only coffee option was regular.  Who really wants to drink decaffeinated?  This is what happened.......

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Tuesday, June 29, 2010

Gowns versus Footed Pajamas


I have been meaning to write about this for a while.  There are a few clothing options out there for your baby in the pajama department.  Every mom has her own opinion on these.  Here is mine.  I do not care for gowns at all!  They ride up.  The majority of these just have elastic around the bottom.  Some of them have a drawstring but I don’t recommend these either because the baby could get the string wrapped around themselves.  The elastic doesn’t do a good job of keeping the gown around the baby’s feet, especially if you have an active baby.  I have gotten up in the middle of the night and the gown was around my daughter’s waist.  The positive side to these is they make it easier to change a diaper (this is important when you are sleep deprived).  You just pull them up, change the diaper and pull them back down.
Footed pajamas are in my opinion better.  They don’t ride up and don’t require socks that could fall off in the middle of the night leaving cold piggies.  The majority of these have the hand covers (so do gowns) which are important when you have a newborn.  I didn’t mind unsnapping the pajamas in the middle of the night to change a diaper.  I did get up some mornings and they were snapped up unevenly! 
If you just had a baby or are about to before you buy a bunch of one try one of each to see which one you like better. 

Thursday, June 24, 2010

A few things I have learned thus far as a new Mom


Wait to undress your baby until after the bath water has been drawn.  While sitting on the side of the tub holding my sweet naked baby, waiting for the bath to fill up I felt something warm all over my pants….. Yep you guessed it I got peed on!  The sad part is this has happened to me two more times.  You would think I would have learned my lesson.
If you need to check to see if your baby has gone poo don’t stick your finger in his or her diaper.  If they have then guess what????  You have a dirty finger!
Little nose Big Boogie.  Although babies noses are small they can grow some enormous boogers!  I am not sure if this is true for all babies but it sure is true for mine.  She has bunnies in her nose all the time.  They are like an iceberg, they look small until you actually suck them out then see how big they really are!
Finally, the best part of waking up isn’t Folgers in your cup, it is a good night sleep,…… no for me it is waking up to my sweet ray of sunshine smiling and cooing at me, even if it is 6:30 and I just went back to sleep 2 hours before (but I am not complaining…. a lot).  I am so thankful that I have been able to enjoy the first 3 months (yes she is already 11 weeks, I can’t believe it) of her life without any interference.  She continues to amaze me more each and every day.