Friends have always been a very important part of my life. One of the greatest compliments I ever received was from one of my friends. She said, “One thing about Amy, she is a great friend.” In order to have good friends you have to be one yourself. Friends are a necessary part of life, they gossiped with you during high school, held your hair back during college, took road trips when you were in your mid twenties and saw you through every bad hair do and decision.
No matter your age if this is your first pregnancy, you better have a friend that has gone through it first. If you don’t have a friend that has taken this leap, then go find one somewhere! Thank goodness the majority of my friends have all taken the plunge. I have many friends all who have their own fabulous characteristics. I have three main friends who have seen me through this pregnancy thus far. They were the first to know about my unexpected miracle. I refer to them as my general council. I have been friends with each of them for more than 17 years, and pray for at least another 60 years with them.
I have given each of them a descriptive name out of respect for their privacy. My first friend, I will call her Sophia Petrillo. She is a tell it like it is kind of girl who is always good for a laugh. She is the one you want to go shopping with when you want honesty and not flattery. Once my roommate, Sophia is also one of the most giving and best friends. When I realized that I was “late” I called her and headed to her house. She thought it was hilarious that I might be pregnant. I peed in a cup and left her in the bathroom playing scientist with a dozen pregnancy tests. When she came out laughing saying they all were positive I called my other two friends to tell them the news.
Laura Croft was at a major college football game and couldn’t hear me. I was screaming into the phone, “I’M PREGNANT!!!!!!” Laura is physically fit. Two months after her son she was back in her size 4’s (skank!) Since her baby she has turned into Super Mom. She called me back when she could hear and thought I was playing a joke. I had to swear on my life that I was telling the truth. Our friendship has been through a lot and I have so many hysterical memories with her I could write a book.
The last member of my general council is Claire Huxtable. She is smart and a wonderful mother of 2. She and I have many memories together as well. Most of which involve tequila and Shaina Twain (her good CD) She also thought I was joking when I told her I was pregnant. Funny how no one believed me.
These three friends have been my advisers from the moment I found out I was pregnant. My Mother and sister have also been great support. My sister’s kids are 16 and 18, so she has been out of the baby game for a while but not nearly as long as my mom. Mom’s are great but if they are anything like mine they constantly repeat, “They didn’t have all of this when you were born” and “You don’t need that, I never used that with you”.
The bottom line is when you find out you are pregnant you need people around you. People that love and support you. People that will give you their old baby stuff, tell you realistically what you need and what you don’t and people that will lie and tell you, you don’t look big in that!