My general council is still giving me advice and support. Last weekend Laura, her husband and their son came to stay with me. She gave me advice about going back to work. Clair came over this past Saturday with her 2 kids. I met up with Sophia this past Friday. In every encounter with each of them we talked about disciplining our children. One thing I have noticed is that every parent disciplines their child differently. There is no perfect way to discipline. To spank or not to spank? Time out? Other forms of punishment, (none of which involve a wire coat hanger)! My daughter is not yet old enough to be disciplined, but it is something I think about. The overall consensus is to be consistent. We all know those parents that say, “I am going to spank you if you do that one more time”. Or not making the child stay in time out when they have been bad. I discussed this with the council and they laughed and said, “just wait”. I guess I will.
Sophia told me about her soon to be 3 year old putting his Woody doll in time out because he was bad. He then told Buzz LightYear that he could not play with Woody because he was driving him “crazy”! Sophia said it makes you feel badly when your kids start telling their toys things you tell them.
Bottom line, discipline is important but controversial. I don’t judge any parent’s technique. I was spanked, had my mouth washed out with soap, put in the corner and later put on restriction. I think I turned out ok (although some may argue with that). All I do know is as a child nothing could put the fear of God in me better than my mom scowling her brown, pointing her finger at me and saying, “you’re going to get it when we get home”!