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Thursday, October 28, 2010

Happy Halloween!

Halloween is upon us. Which means the cutest ghost, goblins, super heroes, princesses, and other characters will fill their neighborhood streets going house to house trick or treating. I have not been so excited about Halloween since the year I dressed up as Wonder Woman (I don’t have to dress up as this character anymore because I, like most moms, am Wonder Woman). This is the first of many years when I will dress my precious daughter up and parade her around in all her cuteness. This year she will be a monkey. I figured I would dress her up as whatever I wanted because, most likely after this year it will not be my choice but hers. I chose a monkey because she makes the cutest face when she is concentrating that looks like a monkey. Also, the picture of the baby in the catalog was too cute to resist. I had considered dressing up as a giant banana, but yellow is not my color. My daughter and I will be continuing a tradition I started 2 years ago and will be trick or treating with Claire, her 2.5 children (she is pregnant with #3), her sister and her family, and other friends in the neighborhood. It is a great tradition. One I plan on continuing for many years.

I am giddy with excitement at the thought of future lady bugs, ballerina’s, witches, and perhaps even a cowgirl. I now know the meaning of seeing things through your child’s eyes. I hope all of my readers have a safe and Happy Halloween and your kids eat all the candy before you do!

Thursday, October 14, 2010

Cartoon Family

I was out working today and had been driving around looking for a coffee shop to get onto the internet when I pulled into a parking spot behind this SUV.  I noticed these cute cartoon figures on the back windshield of the SUV smiling back at me.  {I am not sure if these things are popular where you live, but where I live all the moms in SUV’s and even the non SUV’s moms have these cartoon figures on their back windshield.  They have mommies, daddies, little boys and girls, babies, dogs, and cats.  There is even flip flops to represent each member of your family.}  When I looked closer at these figures I realized there was one missing.  It was just a mommy and a baby.  There was a faint sticky outline of where the cartoon father had once been.  I found this so amusing that I had to take a picture of it.  The more I thought about it, the more I laughed.  I had to post it on FaceBook so that my friends could laugh along with me.  At first, what this said to me was, I can’t stand my ex so I have removed him from every aspect of my life including the cartoon family on the back of my SUV.  This hit really close to home for me because, if I had a cartoon family on the back of my car it would just be my daughter and me.  Except there would not be a faint outline where the daddy once was because, we were never a family so there was no reason for a daddy cartoon figure to be on the back of my car windshield with my daughter and me.

Then on my 2 hour commute home I thought about this more.  I pictured this young mom so happy putting her cartoon family on the back of her SUV.  She purposely went to the store picked out the figure that best represented the father, the best figure that represented her, and finally the best one that represented their baby.  The baby they had made together.  She was delighted as she strategically placed the 3 of them on her windshield.  I am sure every time she opened the back of her SUV she smiled at her cartoon family as she loaded groceries to bring home to her real family. 

Then another image came to me.  It was one of her complete heartbreak.  I could see her outside peeling the cartoon father off the back of her windshield.  Her eyes were red, her nose was running, and tears were streaming down her face as she stripped him off her car.  After he was gone there was a faint outline of where he once was.  That was fine because he will never be completely gone.  So there they were, just she and her baby.  I am sure one day a new cartoon dad will cover the place where the faint outline of another was. 

I normally don’t write in this kind of emotional tone, but this was on my heart.  The truth is I want more than anything to have a cartoon family on the back of my car.  I hate that my daughter will eventually spend vacations with another woman.  I can’t stand the thought of another woman tending to her if she became sick.  I often wonder if my daughter’s father thinks about her watching cartoons in bed on a Saturday morning with someone that is not him, her waking up on Christmas morning to another man behind the video camera.  I know plenty of children go through this type of situation and come out fine, but it’s not the same when it is you.  All I can do is do what I do, and that is love my daughter with all my heart.  Even if my cartoon family on the back of my car is just she and I that will be okay, as long as she is there. 

Wednesday, October 6, 2010


Today my daughter is 6 months old!  In the past week she has had 3 milestones, a new tooth, sitting up by herself, and she got her ears pierced.  The tooth I noticed this weekend but is barely visible.  I just ran my finger across her gums and felt it.  This would explain the recent diaper rash, fussiness, and constant sucking on her bottom lip.  This has not interfered with nursing …….yet.  I am not looking forward to the day when she chomps down on my nipple.  I have heard from many moms, including my own, that this can and at some point will happen.  I know that this is just the beginning the tip of the iceberg.  Soon more teeth will follow then walking and talking.  My little angel won’t be so little anymore.  They won’t be babies long, someone told me.  They were right.
Last Tuesday she and I sat outside in the grass and enjoyed the lovely weather.  Fall has arrived and being outside is irresistible!  My daughter was intrigued with the grass (it was somewhat tall because who has the time to cut it?!).  She wanted to touch it, kneed it, and pull on it.  Watching her discover this for the first time was delightful for me.  While we were out there I sat her up and she was able to sit up all by herself……..for a short period of time, then she rolled to the side.  Of course I was there to catch her, but I was so excited to see that she was able to sit up.  Since then I have been working with her allowing her to sit up by herself and fall over. 
This past Saturday I took her to get her ears pierced.  I did some research online, and did the best research, talking to other moms.  I found out that if you want to do this it is best to do it between the ages of 3 to 6 months or wait until they are older.  Since she was embarking on her 6 month milestone I figured I need to act quickly.  The topic of ears getting a baby girls ears pierced is somewhat controversial.  Some of the moms that I spoke to had very strong opinions about this subject.  The argument is that it is painful and some moms couldn’t do that to their baby.  A few moms said they would wait until the child asked them to do it.  I could argue both points.  I got my ears pierced when I was 3 and I swear I remember having it done.  It wasn’t SOOOOO traumatic for me, but it was still scary.  I wanted her to have it done during a time that she wouldn’t remember, and I could make sure the ears were tended to.  You are supposed to clean them twice a day and constantly turn them.  As a child gets older they may not let you clean and turn them because the lobes are sore, then they get infected.  It wasn’t bad at all.  Yes she cried, but for less than 10 minutes.  Then we went into the Disney store and she was distracted with all the colors, sounds, and textures.  Two days after having it done, her ears were still sore and she fought me a bit when I tried to clean them.  Now she doesn’t even notice that I am cleaning and turning them.  As she gets older they will just be there.  I may even tell her she was so special God allowed her to be born with earrings!   
To this matter I say To Each Her Own. 
These milestones are not important for just her but also for me.  It makes me realize how fast she is growing and in the blink of an eye she is now 6 months old.  Soon it will be her first Christmas and then first birthday.  To each parent I say once again, treasure every moment you have with your children.  In an instant they are grown, and you will wonder where the time went.