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Thursday, October 14, 2010

Cartoon Family

I was out working today and had been driving around looking for a coffee shop to get onto the internet when I pulled into a parking spot behind this SUV.  I noticed these cute cartoon figures on the back windshield of the SUV smiling back at me.  {I am not sure if these things are popular where you live, but where I live all the moms in SUV’s and even the non SUV’s moms have these cartoon figures on their back windshield.  They have mommies, daddies, little boys and girls, babies, dogs, and cats.  There is even flip flops to represent each member of your family.}  When I looked closer at these figures I realized there was one missing.  It was just a mommy and a baby.  There was a faint sticky outline of where the cartoon father had once been.  I found this so amusing that I had to take a picture of it.  The more I thought about it, the more I laughed.  I had to post it on FaceBook so that my friends could laugh along with me.  At first, what this said to me was, I can’t stand my ex so I have removed him from every aspect of my life including the cartoon family on the back of my SUV.  This hit really close to home for me because, if I had a cartoon family on the back of my car it would just be my daughter and me.  Except there would not be a faint outline where the daddy once was because, we were never a family so there was no reason for a daddy cartoon figure to be on the back of my car windshield with my daughter and me.

Then on my 2 hour commute home I thought about this more.  I pictured this young mom so happy putting her cartoon family on the back of her SUV.  She purposely went to the store picked out the figure that best represented the father, the best figure that represented her, and finally the best one that represented their baby.  The baby they had made together.  She was delighted as she strategically placed the 3 of them on her windshield.  I am sure every time she opened the back of her SUV she smiled at her cartoon family as she loaded groceries to bring home to her real family. 

Then another image came to me.  It was one of her complete heartbreak.  I could see her outside peeling the cartoon father off the back of her windshield.  Her eyes were red, her nose was running, and tears were streaming down her face as she stripped him off her car.  After he was gone there was a faint outline of where he once was.  That was fine because he will never be completely gone.  So there they were, just she and her baby.  I am sure one day a new cartoon dad will cover the place where the faint outline of another was. 

I normally don’t write in this kind of emotional tone, but this was on my heart.  The truth is I want more than anything to have a cartoon family on the back of my car.  I hate that my daughter will eventually spend vacations with another woman.  I can’t stand the thought of another woman tending to her if she became sick.  I often wonder if my daughter’s father thinks about her watching cartoons in bed on a Saturday morning with someone that is not him, her waking up on Christmas morning to another man behind the video camera.  I know plenty of children go through this type of situation and come out fine, but it’s not the same when it is you.  All I can do is do what I do, and that is love my daughter with all my heart.  Even if my cartoon family on the back of my car is just she and I that will be okay, as long as she is there. 


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