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Thursday, April 29, 2010

Breast Feeding II

I find it amazing that babies come out of the womb and are ready to nurse.  My daughter wasn’t an hour old and she was already turning her head “rooting”, looking for my breast ready to nurse.  That first feeding was so special for both of us.  I had been producing colostrum (“a yellowish fluid rich in antibodies and minerals that a mother's breasts produce after giving birth and before the production of true milk. It provides newborns with immunity to infections.” Encarta Dictionary) for a few weeks so I knew I was ready for her.  We both were a little awkward the first feeding, but quickly got the hang of it.   
During our feedings I have learned so much about my little one.  I have learned that her eyes are the color of the ocean before a storm, the thin but developing eye lashes and eye brows that sit at top them, the folds in her ears, the swirls in her hair, the length of her fingers as they curl around mine.  Basically, we have gotten to know each other well.  I don’t know what she has learned about me, looking up at me from that angle could not have given her a good impression.  She just started putting her hand on my breast while nursing, which I think is her way of saying thank you. 
If you decide to breast feed here are my suggestions (mostly have been passed down from others) to make it a success.  Get a Breast Friend.  My nieces think this is the funniest thing ever and now refer to me as their breast friend, but this item is great.  My friend Brooke Boles, founder of Hot Pants Cosmetics, told me about it.  It is similar to a Boppie but firmer and easier to use while breast feeding.  It gives the baby a place to rest instead of you having to hold them.  Another item is a good nursing bra.  Believe it or not I found a great one I love at Target.  Buy 2 because more than likely you will be washing one while wearing the other.  Lanolin is a MUST!  There is a brand called Lansinoh which is awesome.  Your nipples will thank you.  Put it on every chance you get.  It is better than A&D ointment because if the baby consumes it, it won’t hurt them.  Breast pads are another must have.  Keep these in your bra at all times or you will look like your water bra has sprung a leak……  I speak from experience. 
Lastly get a good breast pump.  Breast Pumps Direct has all kinds and can help you find the best one for you.  

I chose the Ameda Purely Yours breast pump.  It is great.  Right now I don’t use it very often because I don’t let my little one out of my sight!  When the time comes and I go back to work I am sure it will be one of those things you just can’t live without. 

Monday, April 26, 2010

Breast Feeding Part I

In the words of my very insightful, very wise mother, “The only reason God gave women breast is to nurse their babies.” Well, that and to make a black corset top from BeBe look fabulous! I never really had much of an opinion on breast feeding, since I never planned on having children. It never bothered me when I would see women in public breast feeding. Obviously, my mother is a HUGE advocate for breast feeding and would tell anyone that would listen about when she would nurse me while driving a stick shift. (Remember this was back in the 70’s when smoking while pregnant was still considered OK.) Basically, Britney Spears should have been friends with my mom.
I understand that some women don’t have the opportunity to breast feed but, in my opinion breast feeding is healthier for the baby. This is not based on any scientific study but, it is based on personal experience. My mom breast fed me and not my sister. My sister breast fed her youngest child and not the oldest. Both my youngest niece and I are much healthier individuals than that of our siblings. So when I found out I was pregnant I decided I would breast fed my baby. I had friends that did it, and I knew I could too.
There are pros and cons to breast feeding. I will start with cons first. It hurts. Ask anyone who has breast fed and most likely they will tell you about their nipples cracking, bleeding, and staying extremely sore. This is no joke. The first few weeks you and your baby are both learning the art of this technique. After you both get the hang of it, breast feeding becomes easier. However, it still hurts sometimes. I have been known to clinch the rocking chair I sit in when my daughter latches on. OUCH! Another con but also a pro is you are the only person that can do this for your baby. There is something so special about knowing that you are the only person that can provide your baby with sustenance. Those special moments start looking bleak when you are the only person that can get up 2 and 3 times a night to feed your baby. At some point you wish the father had boobs so he could feed them and you could sleep! Other than some pain and the fact that your breast become very large (which for some women is a PRO ;).
The pros are again, the reliance that your baby has on you and you alone, it is healthier for them, and the bond that is created between you and your baby. Also, breast feeding is cheaper. If you haven’t checked out the price of formula let me tell you it is expensive! My lactation consultant told me that the average mother that breast feeds saves approximately $1,500 per year versus a mother who buys formula. It is convenient. Your breast milk is always the right temperature, always there when you need it, and for most women provides the baby with the perfect amount of milk. You don’t have to worry about making bottles or if you were to run out of bottles. This of course becomes more complicated when the mother wants to return to work or her regular activities. I am not there yet, but when I do go back to work I will be sure to let you know how it goes. The biggest pro for you as a woman is that breast feeding helps your uterus shrink and you to lose weight!

I have more to write but guess who is hungry?

Thursday, April 22, 2010

2 Weeks After Baby!

I can't believe that it has been 2 weeks since I had my baby!  The past 2 weeks have been pure bliss but also exhausting.  I have so many things to write about, it is finding the time to write them.  Today I am just happy I got to take a shower.  I am also happy to announce that (I really hope this does not come across as arrogant or conceited) I went to the doctor Monday and I have lost 23 pounds!  Loosing that much weight in 2 weeks is exciting!  I only gained 30 pounds during my pregnancy so I have 7 to go.  I attribute this weight loss to 2 things breast feeding and night sweats.  Nobody told me about night sweats!  I swear I sweat as much at night as I did during a spin class.  I wake up drenched from head to toe, goodbye water weight!  Did anyone else experience these?
Breast feeding is also wonderful for many reasons (I plan on writing an entire post about it).  It bonds you with the baby, it is healthier for the baby, it is cheaper, AND it helps with weight loss.  Too bad we can’t start breast feeding when we need to lose 5 pounds to fit into our skinny jeans!  I actually eat more now than I did when I was pregnant.  Don’t get me wrong, I try to make healthy choices but lately Reese’s pieces have been calling my name.  I can’t exercise for another few weeks but am soooooo looking forward to it.  I say that now but I am sure that when I am out of breath the first 5 minutes into a class or I am so sore after a workout, I can’t walk, I will rethink that statement.  For now I am just happy that I don't have to wear pants with a stretchy elastic waist band.......but I will hold on to those pants just in case.....I ever feel bloated!                 

Monday, April 19, 2010

The Adventure Begins!


It has been a little over a week since I brought my precious bundle of joy home.  In this time I have learned many things, some I hope to share with you.  First and foremost, babies LOVE to sleep during the day and have parties at night.  I know this will pass, and she will eventually get on a schedule.  However, for the time being it is hard.  I am not complaining (too much) she is healthy and happy……even at 4:30 in the morning.
As previously mentioned there are so many things I can’t wait to write about, it is finding the time now to do so.  I must bring up this and hope some of you other mothers out there can help me.  To Bite or To Clip…..finger nails?????  My poor child doesn’t even know she has hands yet because they are confined to what I like to call “oven mitts”.  If one of her outfits does not have hand covers, I immediately put on her oven mitts to prevent her from scratching herself.  There is only one remedy to this situation, cut her nails.  She is so young and her hands are so small I am scared to clip them out of fear I may hurt her.  My friend Sophia told me to bite them off when she was sleeping….. REALLY?!?!?  Bite them off?  Isn’t that a bit prehistoric?  I mean if we have Pedi Paws for dogs shouldn’t we have some better piece of equipment for cutting a baby’s finger nails?  I guess not so I am left with the smallest nail clippers to do the job! 
So what do you other Mom’s say?  Clip or Bite?
Please be patient I will have more post coming…… soon as I get some much needed sleep!

Monday, April 12, 2010

Here's MOMMY!

My life is forever changed.   I did it!  I am officially a MOMMY!  I never knew it was possible to love another human being as much as I love my daughter.  There is nothing in this world that is as precious to me as she.  I understand now why when you see people with children they always want to show you a picture of them and tell you all about them.  They are your JOY.  I have been many places, seen many things, done all kinds of events, bought many things, but none of these ever came close to making me as happy as I do when I see the face of my angel. 
My friend Claire came by yesterday and we were discussing how children are a gift from God.  She made a great point when she said, “having a baby is the one time we as humans can assist God in a miracle.”  She is absolutely right and what a miracle it is!  I have thanked God a million times for blessing me with this truly miraculous gift, and I will continue to do so until the day I die.
Recap…last Tuesday (the greatest day of the year in my opinion), my birthday, I saw my doctor.  I was almost a week over due and she said we had to induce.  So I was admitted to the hospital and they started the drip.  {For those of you, who don’t know me well, I am a total control freak, I had a certain birth plan in mind and induction was not part of it.  I had played it out in my mind that I was going to be out somewhere, my water would break, and I would call friends and family and say, “my water just broke!”  I also wanted to deliver naturally.  None of these things happened.  If you are pregnant my advice is have a plan but be open to ANYTHING!}  So, I am on the drip, contractions start coming, in time getting stronger and more frequent.  When the contractions were coming at a minute apart and spiking off the chart, I decided that an epidural was in order.  After 16 hours, dilating only 8 cmm (close but no cigar), my doctor said that a vaginal birth wasn’t happening.  We were going to have to do a cesarean section.  I cried, things were not going at all as I planned!  At 10:58pm after a long arduous labor I heard the most wonderful sound I have ever heard, and my daughter was in the world. 
So now April 6th really is the greatest day ever, not because it is my birthday, but because it is hers.  I have had plenty of birthdays anyway.  I got the greatest gift I could ever get the day she was born.  No one will ever be able to give me a more beloved gift.  If I sound like I am beaming it is because I am, if it sounds like I am the happiest person on the planet I am, if it sounds like I am in love like I have never been in love before…guess what I AM!  All of the hardships I went through during my pregnancy and delivery I would do a thousand times over, because in the end it was all worth it.
Thank you all for following me through this journey of my life.  I may have once been “The Unexpecting Mommy” but now I am and will forever be, happily just “MOMMY”.  I will continue to write so please keep checking.
Please also understand that out of discreteness and privacy I will not be posting pictures (except this one of me looking lovely...not) of my daughter or using her name.

Sunday, April 4, 2010


I hope each one of you had a wonderful Easter. Just like Christmas I hope you remembered why we celebrate this day. I had thought perhaps that I would be bringing home my baby on Easter Sunday like my mother did me. That did not happen but while attending an Easter egg hunt with one of my friends, I thought about this time next year and how my life will be so much different. 

I became sad this weekend, not yet having my baby. My youngest niece sent this to me which made my cry more, but also made me feel better. I thought I would share it with you. 

ENJOY! Baby Inside