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Monday, August 30, 2010

Product Talk

My intention when I first started writing this blog was to talk about products that I find useful.  I have gotten away from this concept and have opted for sharing my experiences with my angel baby.  With this blog I am getting back to my original intention.
Next Monday my daughter will be 5 months old.  Where has the time gone?  In these 5 months I have used a variety of products.  Here is a list of the ones that I am still using and would definitely recommend to anyone that just had a baby or is about to.
1.       A glider or rocking chair - I use this everyday and have since the day my daughter came home.   I can see myself using this for many years.  Whether it is nursing her, putting her to sleep or reading her a story, a glider is a must have.
2.       Breast Pump – If you breastfeed and go back to work this is a MUST have.  Get a good one!
3.       The Breast Friend – again if you breastfeed this is a great accessory to make breast feeding easier.  I have a Boppie, but rarely use it. 
4.       Tummy time mat – It is important for babies at around 3 months get plenty of tummy time in order to strengthen their upper body to prepare them for crawling.  I bought a Tummy Time mat for around $30.  I have found them a TJMaxx and Marshall’s for half that.  If you want to be really practical put a blanket on the floor and put some soft toys around the baby for them to focus on. 
5.       A Swing – My daughter is not sleeping in the swing anymore but this device still comes in handy when you need a free moment to grab a shower or something.
6.       Wet mats – these square waterproof mats are great to have on your changing table.  If your baby is anything like mine as soon as the cold air hits they are inclined to go wee wee.  This saves you from having to do extra laundry.
7.       The vibrating chair – I don’t know what I would do without this thing!!!  It is great for just about anything.  It is portable so you can put it in any room in your house.
8.       Caldesene powder – This was recommended to me by my Mom.  It apparently has been around for years.  This powder is better than your standard baby powder, because it actually creates a barrier from moisture.  If your baby has a chronic diaper rash, give this stuff a try.  My daughter has not had a diaper rash yet.
9.       Crackling books – as your child gets older and begins to play with toys these books (and some toys) fascinate them.  They sound like paper crumbling.  My Mom said she used to give me a cheese wrapper that had the same effect.  Either way babies LOVE the sound and possibly the way it feels.  These items are sure to keep them occupied at least for a bit.
10.   Last but not least FOOTED PAJAMAS – especially the ones that snap!  These things are great.  Since babies cannot sleep with a blanket these pajamas keep them warm so you can stay cool.  I did close the AC vent in my daughter’s room so she wouldn’t get too cold as I like the house cool at night. 
Of course pacifiers!
I will have more suggestions as time goes on, but get ready for more post about my days with my little angel baby.

Thursday, August 26, 2010

I’ve created a little monster

My daughter was somewhat sleeping through the night.  She would go down around 7 and sometimes wake up around midnight then wake up again around 3:30.  I was doing very well about getting up, putting her passy back in her mouth, patting her on the back for a while and then letting her fall back to sleep in her crib.  Sometimes she would cry, but if she did it wasn’t for long.   
A few weeks ago, my friend Laura came to stay 4 days with us, and I didn’t want my daughters cries to wake her up during the night.  So when she would wake up (normally at the 3:30 time) I would jump up, get her and put her in the bed with me.  I suppose she has gotten used to this routine.  Now if I try to put her passy in her mouth and pat her on the back she rolls over, looks up at me, frowns this huge frown and begins to cry.  This is heart breaking because I interpret this as her saying to me, “don’t leave me here all alone.”  So I don’t.  I carefully pick her up, pull her to my chest, whisper in her ear that I love her and take her to my room.  We lay down and I nurse her until she falls back to sleep (which is usually within 5 minutes).  I usually fall back to sleep too and at some point wake up and look at her.  I know some “experts” say that you shouldn’t sleep with your baby, a newborn probably not, but I think when they are a little older it is just fine.  Of course some precautions should be taken.  But it is one of the sweetest things to wake up with my daughter in my arms and seeing her sleeping with her little mouth open.  She is so completely relaxed and content being there with me.  Although, I would love to sleep through the night and sometimes my arm falls asleep while she is laying a top it but, I wouldn’t trade these moments for anything.   
So to those “experts” I say I will savor this time with my precious angel and worry about something else. 

Monday, August 23, 2010

Cereal Face

My last post I mentioned my vanity and the fact that I am unable to do many of the things that I would like to do to enhance appearance.  I have recently found an all natural product that will have to work until I am able to begin my regime again.  It’s the cereal mask. 
I began spoon feeding my daughter cereal when she was 3 months old.  Some people say you shouldn’t give solids to a baby until they are around 5months old.  I went against this new school of thought and opted for the “old school” way of doing things.   At family gathering a few of the older ladies asked me if my daughter was on cereal yet.  I said no and that I was told that I should wait to give it to her, they informed me that they gave their babies cereal very early and that I should too.  The real incentive for me to give it to her was when they said it may help her sleep all night.  SLEEP?!  Oh I was all over anything that could possibly get her to sleep all night.  (Let me just say this is a myth and did not work.)  However, I did try it and she LOVED it!  She did so well with it I kept her on it and to this day she looks forward to cereal time. 
Recently she has learned how to spit her cereal in my face.  Of course this is not intentional but she does think it is funny.  Whether she spits it when she is laughing, crying or during a sneeze, a few times a week I have cereal on my face.  I have decided to make the most of it and leave the cereal on my face hoping there is some benefit to it.  After all it is organic so it has to be good…..right? 
(This is a stock picture not one of my daughter.  I am still leery about posting pictures of her)

Thursday, August 19, 2010

Vanity O Vanity

I have not had any plastic surgery……yet, but I am a HUGE fan of Botox!!!! It has been over a year since my last injection of this highly toxic fabulous miracle. Of course, I knew that it probably was not a good idea to get any while I was pregnant. So, I patiently waited through my pregnancy, watching as fine lines developed and that nightmare of a line between my eyes returned! ARGHHHH how long could I look at myself in the mirror like this. The answer to this question is a wee bit longer.

There are many things that you shouldn’t consume or use while breastfeeding. Getting Botox is one of them. I called my doctor’s office and to ask his opinion. His nurse said they wouldn’t advise it. Considering that it is such a small amount and too much probably wouldn’t be absorbed into the blood stream, I prayed it would be ok to get while nursing. In a serious moment of desperation I called the manufacturer. They informed me that they had no studies on the use of Botox while breastfeeding and although not a lot enters the blood stream it still could be passed through in breast milk. Not wanting my daughter to get sick or something worse from my vanity, I opted not to get botulism injected into my face just yet.

I have mentioned my Melasma (discoloration of the skin due to hormones) before and my battle with it. I feel so intimate with this condition that I have vowed the next dog I get I will name him/her Melasma. I had a ghastly amount during my pregnancy and am trying to rid my face of the last traces of this evil devil. I started using Tri-Luma, which is a prescription bleaching cream that I used before I got pregnant. After using it for a week or so I thought it would be a good idea to see if it is ok to use while breastfeeding. NOPE! No good. Poo! Now what? I am wrinkled and discolored. I look like a suede handbag that was left in the rain.

Then I began checking on other things. I can’t use Strivectin for my stretch marks, white strips for bleaching my teeth or laser skin treatments. NOOOOOOO! How am I going to find a husband if I am wrinkled and dotted up with yellow teeth?

Doing what is in the best interest of my daughter I decided that it would be best if I took a sabbatical from my vanity. At least until I stopped breastfeeding........... then I am all over it or it is all over me!

Tuesday, August 17, 2010

Country Grammer

It was recently brought to my attention that my blog is full of grammatical errors. I appreciate the constructive criticism.  If my errors bother you please let me know of the corrections that need to be made, and I will gladly correct them. I don’t write this blog as a journalist or for award. I write this blog as an expression of what has happened in my life and the current events that transpire with my daughter in the hopes that my readers will be able to relate and find some humor in it. (I believe that was a run on sentence!) Perhaps I should have paid better attention in English class, but I believe that everyone who reads my blog gets my point whether a comma is in the right place or not!
Thanks for following!

Wednesday, August 11, 2010

Eat my Words!

I said before that I never wanted to have children.  I wanted to live the life of leisure thinking only of myself.  (Not that there is anything wrong with people that chose this lifestyle).  However, God had a different plan for me, and now I have the most precious angel baby who I love more than life itself.  When she came along I said, “That’s it!  I don’t want anymore.  One is enough for me.”  I may have to eat my words yet again. 
After you reach a certain age you may start to feel too old to have a baby like I did.  Celebrities make it look easy having babies in their 40’s, (not that I am close to 40 yet) but still if you start calculating your age it can be scary.  If I have a baby when I am 35, I will be around 53 when they graduate from high school!  I don’t want to be the old lady mom!  The great news is that if I am the old lady mom I won’t be alone.  My friends are still having babies.  One of my friends is 43 and just had her 3 child.  She is a rockstar, and I admire her very much.  Another one of my friends just told me that she was pregnant with her 3rd and another friend is going to start trying for her 2nd soon.  This got me thinking………….
What if I meet someone and they want to have a baby?  Do I really want my daughter to be an only child? (At least as far as I am concerned.)  Would having a 2nd child be THAT bad considering my age?  Not at all.  Then I started calculating again, and if I meet someone soon we would probably date for a while, then we would get married.  I am sure we would want to enjoy being married for a while (unless he was in a hurry to get pregnant too).  Then I would get pregnant, 9 months later the baby would be here.  I can do this before I am 35……right?  I am 33.  In case you don’t know this about me, I want to be married.  I want a family.  I am sad that things did not work out with the father of my daughter, but they didn’t so here I am.  I suppose I should just let things happen as they are going to happen, but I am a planner and I think I should have some kind of a plan.  After all this I have decided to be open minded to having another baby and not get the tubes tied up yet!  If he/she is as wonderful as my first, why wouldn’t I?  And so what if I am an old lady mom?  I will be a cool old lady mom sitting in the stands with my old lady mom friends!

Friday, August 6, 2010

First week back to work

A day in the life of a working single mom

I have completed my first week back to work. I must say it was very bitter sweet. I am so thankful to have a job at this point (I have been unemployed since December) but I hate leaving my daughter. I have enjoyed my time with her. She is 4 months today. I have been able to spend quality time with her, but the bills have to be paid, so hi ho hi ho it’s off to work I go. For those of you who are pregnant or jus t had a baby, it can be done. Yes it is hard, but I must admit it is nice to get out and be around people. I am also still breast feeding which is a whole other blog posting in itself.

I won’t lie it is hard being a single mother with a 4 month old and returning to work. Before she was born I would go to the gym, do a yoga or spin class or both, come home cook dinner or meet friends out, get in bed around 11:00 and get up around 7:30. Not the case anymore. Now I wake up whenever she does which is normally between 5:30 and 6:00. She is in the bed with me because she fell asleep there when she woke up at 3:30 to nurse. Sometimes I nurse her again sometimes I don’t, it depends. I let her play in the bed while I jump in the shower. After I get out of the shower it is time for diaper change and for her to get dressed. I dress her then I put her in her swing which is in my bedroom. She talks to me and grabs her feet while I put on my make-up , do my hair and get dressed myself. I load the car up with her diaper bag, my breast pump, my briefcase, my lunch, her lunch, my purse, my computer……. Whoops don’t forget the baby! We then head to my Mom’s (which is conveniently 30 minutes away……there is sarcasm there!) I am very grateful that my Mother is keeping my daughter during the day. I have heard nightmare daycare stories. My Mom is as close to me as my daughter will get, and I know takes excellent care of her. So after a hectic day in the field, driving all over God’s creation (I’m in sales) I make the long drive back to my Mom’s to get my daughter. I then head home……. (another 30 minutes). Once there I barely get my stuff put down before it is bath time, cereal time, nursing time and then hopefully bedtime. I work until around 9:30 or 10:00, cram some kind of leftover food that is not moldy in my mouth and finally I can rest. I read my bible, write in my journal say my prayers and pray she will sleep through the night (it has only happened once!) But a girl can pray!!!
I wake up the next day and do it all over again. Someone recently called me amazing as I have found all mothers are and, my reply was “Yes, yes I am amazing.” I just hope I can keep this up!

Sunday, August 1, 2010


My general council is still giving me advice and support.  Last weekend Laura, her husband and their son came to stay with me.  She gave me advice about going back to work.  Clair came over this past Saturday with her 2 kids.  I met up with Sophia this past Friday.  In every encounter with each of them we talked about disciplining our children.  One thing I have noticed is that every parent disciplines their child differently.  There is no perfect way to discipline.  To spank or not to spank?   Time out?  Other forms of punishment, (none of which involve a wire coat hanger)!  My daughter is not yet old enough to be disciplined, but it is something I think about.  The overall consensus is to be consistent.  We all know those parents that say, “I am going to spank you if you do that one more time”.  Or not making the child stay in time out when they have been bad.  I discussed this with the council and they laughed and said, “just wait”.  I guess I will. 
Sophia told me about her soon to be 3 year old putting his Woody doll in time out because he was bad.  He then told Buzz LightYear that he could not play with Woody because he was driving him “crazy”!  Sophia said it makes you feel badly when your kids start telling their toys things you tell them.    
Bottom line, discipline is important but controversial.  I don’t judge any parent’s technique.  I was spanked, had my mouth washed out with soap, put in the corner and later put on restriction.  I think I turned out ok (although some may argue with that).  All I do know is as a child nothing could put the fear of God in me better than my mom scowling her brown, pointing her finger at me and saying, “you’re going to get it when we get home”!