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Sunday, January 29, 2012

Do The Potty Dance

If by reading the title of this blog the “Potty Dance” song became stuck in your head, you either have children or watch way too much television targeted towards toddlers.  Recently we decided to introduce Angel to the potty.  I got the slip on diapers, a potty seat that goes on the toilet and her own potty chair, not sure which one she would take to.  Since she was only 20 months when she was introduced to the potty I decided not to be too pushy as we have plenty of time for her to get comfortable with the idea of going to the bathroom in the potty.  As most parents that have potty trained children know, this can be a tedious stage in a child’s development.  My friends that have boys and girls have told me it is easier to train girls than boys.  I take solace in that. 
The little pamphlet that the pediatrician gave me (which looks like it was developed in the 70’s) suggested that the child watch the same sex parent go to the bathroom.  Again, anyone with children will admit that their child has seen them potty many times before potty training was even an issue.  As a single parent I don’t even go to the bathroom with the door closed, and even if I leave it somewhat cracked within few seconds after I sit down I have a visitor.  Now when I sit down in Angel’s presence we have to listen and then cheer.  One night I tried to get her to go to the potty before taking a bath, she was not interested, squirmed off, and ran away.  I chased after her and when I finally caught her she peed on me.  I am sure this will not be the last time this will happen.  It’s funny some days she is interested and some days she will have nothing to do with the potty. 
This past Tuesday I got a phone call from my Mom with some news, Angel poo pooed in the potty!!!!  She told me herself.  I am in an office full of people cheering for her!  I got a few glances when some people heard me say “Mommy is so proud of you for going poo poo in the potty!” After I got off the phone I had to tell somebody so I told a lady I was sitting next to.  Being a mother herself, she smiled at me and said, “Isn’t it amazing that something like that can make us so happy?”  YES!!!  Whether Angel is successful going to the potty I always encourage her with “good try”.  When she does go I cheer so much you would think I won the lottery.
My friend Sophia’s daughter Izzie, who is 3 months older than Angel, has pretty much potty trained herself.  We were over at their house yesterday and Sophia has 2 potty chairs in the kid’s bathroom.  One looks like a throne for a princess complete with a hot pink crown on the back and sound effects.  The other is a green frog that was her son’s.  I walked into the bathroom and both of our girls are sitting on these potty’s with their pants down and smiles on their faces.  Sophia got pictures of this, which I am sure they will hate us for when they are 16. 

As we embark on this next stage of adventure I am sure there will be many more ups and downs, hits and misses, and poo poo’s and pee pee’s.  One thing is for sure I now go to bed singing that “Potty Dance” song instead of a Wiggles song.  I am still unsure if this is a good thing or not?

****A few hours after I posted this Angel came to me and said, "tee tee potty", excited and afraid the moment would pass before it started I ran with her to the bathroom, snatched off her diaper, and placed her on the potty.  While we were listening I smelt something and thought for a second we would have a big reason to celebrate when I turned to look behind me and there on the floor was....... yep you guessed it.  I must have slung it out of her diaper when I was trying to get it off.  We laughed so hard we forgot about the reason we were there to begin with!
Potty Training 1 - Mommy 0

Wednesday, January 18, 2012

Oh How Fast They Grow!

I remember picking on my friend Claire after she told me the story of sending her son off to school in pants that were entirely too short for him.  “High waters” she had referred to them because the hem was between his calf and ankle.  He was embarrassed because he looked like he was wearing a pair of his little sisters pants, but Claire sent him off to school like that anyway.  “I swear I just bought those pants 2 months ago!” she told me.  “How could he have grown so much so fast?”

Children do grow up so fast.  I remember people telling me that Angel would be grown before I knew it, and I am starting to feel that way now.  The other day I went to dress her with a pair of navy blue cotton pants with multi colored polka dots on them.  She already had the hot pink shirt on that went with them which fit fine.  The pants were a different story.  As soon as I put them on I found myself in a similar situation as Claire.  These pants which she has only worn one other time were too short!  So I grabbed a pair of blue jeans that were boot cut in style and had hearts embroidered on the right leg.  They fit in length but would not button.  Angels round Buddha belly, that I love to tickle and blow kisses on, was sticking out too much for me to button them.  I thought about letting her wear them low around her waist, so that her belly hung over the waist band like aging men do, then quickly decided against it.  Running late for work and frustrated I took those pants off of her too.  

I pushed on her belly like the Pillsbury dough boy and asked if she had worms, she giggled and grabbed her belly where I had pushed.  I was waiting for her to offer me a crescent roll when I realized I had to get going.  Not having much time to put together another outfit I grabbed a pair of pants that were 2T.  2T!!!! When did she get into a 2T?????  

I almost started to cry.  Have 2 years already passed?  Almost.  I can’t believe it.  Angel is getting so big, astonishing me more each day.  She knows all her ABC’s can recognize her letters, can count to 10 in English, Spanish, and I recently found out French.  She is forming sentences and has an incredible outgoing personality.  

Some people don’t understand why I want to spend every moment I can with her.  It is because these moments are fleeting and will be gone in the blink of an eye.  Soon I will be writing about her attending her first day of kindergarten.  I know I will cry on that day!  I am happy that she is growing up healthy and strong.  She won’t be little forever so while she is I will continue to enjoy every second.  Although I wonder if I put a brick on her head it would take a little longer?   

Saturday, January 7, 2012

Dear Santa

Dear Santa,

I want to thank you for all of the gifts you left for Angel this year.  Between you and my family I now need a bigger house.  Of all your gifts my favorite has to be the portable DVD player that now plays behind my head in my car.  As if I don’t have to watch The Wiggles enough as it is.  This wondrous device has made rides to Nana’s a lot quieter with the exception of hot potato hot potato.  The first time I saw these things I was like, wow that is some lazy parenting to allow your child to watch movies while in the car all the time.  Don’t children watch enough television?  What happened to singing and playing I spy?  I remember when I was little and my family and I drove to Disney World; I colored, read, and annoyed my sister.  Isn’t that what road trips are all about?  Ugh, no they are about peace and quite!  Angel and I haven’t taken any long road trips, but when we do I now have the ultimate peace keeper.  Bad parenting?  Whatever!  More like absolute genius.
The other thing that I love and am looking forward to is the inflatable bouncer.  Now my neighbors will despise me even more with my junked up yard and new brightly colored jumping pen to add to my collection.  I am hoping to redeem myself by inviting their kids down to play in it. 
Finally, thank you so much for the 4 pair of squeaker shoes that Angel is so exited about wearing!  What were you thinking?  Was the other noise making toys not enough?!  Between you and my sister who got Angel a tent that has taken over my living room I have no space and no quite time.  I guess it is all worth it because she loves very bit of it!  All I ask is next year please bring me a playroom to add to my house to put all of this stuff in. 

P.S.  I am guessing since Bradley Cooper was not under my tree you could not fit him down my chimney?  Let me know when you want to bring him by and I will leave my front door open so he can walk right in.  Feel free to bring him soon as I am sure he is cold up there at the North Pole.

Wednesday, January 4, 2012

Make Up

Like most people I like to get organized and clean things out at the beginning of the new year.  As they say, out with the old in with the new.  While Angel was at her Dads, I got busy and cleaned out her room, my office, my pantry, and my vanity.  That is when I decided that I should write about some of my favorite make up products.  (If you’re a guy you can stop reading now.)  Now, I don’t claim to be an expert, but I do claim to buy a lot of make up that I don’t ever use.  I, like most women can walk into a store like Sephora and drop some serious money.  All of the enticing shades of color in powders and tubes, and bottles filled with empty promises of youth and beauty are too much to resist.  So here are some of my favorite make up products. 
I always start my make up regime by using sunscreen.  If your moisturizer does not have sunscreen in it, buy one that does.  Philosophy Miracle Worker is a great choice.

  • I have no idea how much money I have wasted on trying to find the perfect foundation, but I know it is a lot.  As many of my readers know I dealt with melasma (the discoloration of the skin due to hormones) during and after my pregnancy.  Even before then I searched for the perfect foundation.  I have oily skin, and living in the South in the middle of the summer doesn’t help me either.  It seemed like I would put it on in the morning and by lunch my foundation would have slid off my face into my lap.  I have tried them all; liquids, cream to powders, minerals, even aerosols (don’t ask, but yes they do make foundation in a can you can spray on).  I have a wide spectrum from expensive department store brands to the less expensive drug store brands, and the one I love the most is Revlon Color Stay.  I swear by this stuff.  It offers great coverage that last all day, it is not heavy on the skin, and it is not very expensive.
  • My next favorite product that I can’t do without is MAC Prep Prime Eye which is a shadow base.  Applying this on the entire eye lid before putting on eye shadow helps keep your eye makeup from creasing. 
  • There are so many good eye shadows that offer intense color or subtle enhancement that I have a few of everything.  Many of the brands have the color coordinated packs that have complimentary colors that enhance your eye color.  You can’t mess it up!  Urban Decay, Smashbox, MAC, Bobbie Brown, and drug store brands are good.
  • I love MAC’s gel eyeliner.  The key to eyeliner is getting a good brush depending on if you want it really thick or thin and precise.
  • Mascara is like foundation for me, I have tried many of them.  I like Buxom, Almay’s Get up and Grow and Maybelline’s Full and Soft.  I have tried some of the new ones that promise to make your lashes look fake, coating each one.  What they really do is clump.  What’s worse is they are a pain to get off.  You will end up with dark circles from mascara remints. 
  • This brings me to eye make up remover.  My friend Charlotte introduced me to the wipes from Neutrogena which are great for all over but my favorite is Sephora’s brand of waterproof eye makeup remover.
  • One thing all women love is lip gloss.  Every woman I know has her favorite lip gloss.  I love the Bigelow brand, HotPants, Buxom, and my all-time favorite is MAC Viva Glam IV.  It is the perfect shade for anyone.
I hope this helps and if any of you have any insight or suggestions I would love to read your comments!!! 

Monday, January 2, 2012

Comes The Dawn

My Mom gave me this poem and I thought I would share it with you.


Comes The Dawn

Author: Veronica A. Shoffstall
After a while you learn the subtle difference
Between holding a hand and chaining a soul,
And you learn that love doesn’t mean leaning
And company doesn’t mean security,
And you begin to learn that kisses aren’t contracts
And presents aren’t promises,
And you begin to accept your defeats
With your head up and your eyes open
With the grace of a woman, not the grief of a child,
And you learn to build all your roads on today,
Because tomorrow’s ground is too uncertain for plans,
And futures have a way of falling down in mid-flight.
After a while you learn
That even sunshine burns if you get too much.
So you plant your own garden and decorate your own soul,
Instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers.
And you learn that you really can endure...
That you really are strong,
And you really do have worth.
And you learn and learn...
With every goodbye you learn.