Last week I attended a graduation ceremony and on my way to my seat I passed 4 people standing off to the side of everyone else. There were two women facing another woman and a man. The reason this group of people caught my attention was not because they were carrying a large bundle of balloons for their graduate, not because they were over joyed by this achievement in a young person’s life. No, it was the fact that that the man yelled at one of the women his opposite that he was going to (insert obscenity here) hit her. She yelled back no you’re (insert obscenity) not. I just so happened to see a security guard and sent him their way. I presume this was the baby daddy with his new wife or girlfriend yelling at the baby momma and her female friend. I have thought about this situation since it happened retelling the story of how people have no class. It has also made me think even deeper about relationships between ex’s and how they affect the children that came out of them. Thank goodness the graduate was already in line waiting to walk across the stage and receive his or her diploma. This is a very special occasion for not only the graduate but the family as well. I am sure JR. would be very disappointed to hear that his dad didn’t get to see him graduate because he had been arrested for a domestic disturbance with his mother at his once and only high school graduation. Seriously, can’t people grow up? Not because it makes sense to have class and act like an adult, but think about what this type of behavior does to children involved.
All of this makes me think about my own situation. I don’t understand how and why people can be so malicious, mean, and downright cruel to someone they once cared for? I am not suggesting that you and your ex be BFF’s and go on vacations with each other, but it would be nice if you and your ex could at least be cordial and friendly. My mother constantly reminds me of the Golden Rule, “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you”. I must admit this is sometime extremely difficult especially when you have tried and given and have gotten nothing but ignored. As much as my feelings get hurt and as frustrated as I get, the thought of Angel being put in a situation between her father and I, encourages me to do the right thing; even if I get spit in the face. 7 X 70.
So to people everywhere that have a Baby Momma or Baby Daddy even if you can’t stand the sight of this person, try for the sake of your children be pleasant to them. After all without that person you wouldn’t have the blessing of your children.