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Friday, September 27, 2013

Kids and Jesus

Last night while saying our prayers Angel asked me if I would pray that Jesus would be with her and protect her.  After our prayers Angel asked, “Can Jesus come over tomorrow?”  I replied of course, of course and then she said he would drive his car to our house.  This made me laugh but also got me thinking.  What do children think about God and Jesus?  My mom loves to remind me of when I was Angel’s age I would tell the story to anyone who would listen how I remembered being in heaven sitting in my rocking chair at the feet of Jesus waiting for him to tell me it was time to slide down the rainbow into my mommy’s belly.  I was so confident in myself and my story and told it with such conviction that my mother asked our preacher if that could have really happen and if I could really remember it.  The preacher informed my na├»ve mother that I was probably making this story up based on stories that I had heard.  Angel and I go to church and the school that Angel attends is a Christian based school so she learns about Jesus and stories from the bible at home, school and church.  To this day if she sees a picture of a man with long dark hair and a beard she says that is Jesus.  We wonder why the majority of us think of God as an old white man with a long beard in a robe that floats around in the clouds, it is
 mostly because that is how he is portrayed.  I am not trying to go off on a tangent I am just merely remarking on the imagination of children and their perception of God.  About a year ago Angel’s dad, who is Catholic, told me that when he asked her why they had to be quite in church her reply was because Jesus was sleeping.  I had a friend tell me that how she and her husband got their son to sleep in his bed was to pray with him every night that Jesus would watch over him and protect him while he slept.  This worked well except for one night when he came in their room and said “Um I know Jesus is watching over me and protecting me, but I don’t really want to sleep with him tonight.” 
I am happy that Angel knows her bible verses and can tell you stories out of the bible like Jonah and the whale and her favorite David and Goliath.  I am looking forward to more of her interpretations of it all too.  Who knows I may learn something new or see something in a totally different light.    

Thursday, September 5, 2013

Money, Money, Money..........MONEY!

I knew raising a child was going to be expensive the first time I stepped into a Babies R Us when I was pregnant.  I looked around at all the stuff that I was told I “had to have” and then looked at the price tag.  I immediately ruled out some of those things.  I have recently gotten another reality check regarding expenses since Angel has started school.  It is not just basic necessities like food, shelter, clothing, toys, dress up clothes, giant Barbie’s and princess accessories.  It is tuition for school, school uniforms, school supplies, school registration, (what is up with all the registration fees???  There is a registration fee to wake up every morning) field trips, class parties, dance class, dance shoes, dance leotards, registration for dance class and recital costume deposits.  The other thing I started calculating is birthday presents, not presents for Angel, presents for all the other kids whose birthday parties we are now invited to.  I was excited about going to the first birthday party, then there was an invitation to another party and then another.  If I spend $20 on each present and Angel is invited to 10 parties that is $200 a year on birthday presents for other kids so my kid can go run around and burn off the sugar from the cake and ice cream.  (Another down side to all these birthday parties is guess who else is eating cake and ice cream……ME!)  I am not opposed to this nor am I complaining, I am just realizing that I have got a lot more additions I need to add to my monthly budget.  I haven't even thought about Christmas!!! Presents for fellow students, the teacher, not to mention the gifts I have to buy for our friends and family.  Now I understand what all my other friends have been complaining about for years.  Perhaps now I won’t judge another mom for not having her toes done because maybe she is forgoing a pedicure to pay for ballet lessons.  I am sure she, like me, finds it totally worth it to have nasty toes to see the excitement on their child’s face when she told her she is going to dance class.  So I have accepted that I will be cutting checks for sequined dresses that are not for me and for gifts for someone else's kid.  That's fine I know it only gets worse from here.  I am already saving for the tween years when you have to buy merchandise for the Justin Bieber of the month.  And for you married people out there that know what I am talking about, imagine doing this as a single parent.

As I sit her writing this waiting for dance class to be over I can hear Angel talking about Angel Rapunzel (her giant Barbie) to the rest of the class.  That thing may be creepy, but it was worth every penny just like me having nasty toes.